If I asked you what comes to mind when you think about yourself would it be something negative? Would you name a less desirable physical trait? We live in a world that bases popularity and beauty on physical attributes. So it’s natural that we compare ourselves by these standards. But have you questioned why? Who determines beauty? Or better yet who benefits from your self doubt? It has been argued whether beauty is objective or subjective. I believe it is subjective because we do not all see beauty in the same manner. I can find beauty even in the most undesirable places or people. Some claim that I’m naive or mistake my kindness for weakness. I don’t, I think people who aren’t kind are the weak ones. But that’s an entirely different topic for a later time. I want to stress self love because I think there’s tons of babes that need to hear that they’re beautiful.

​When I say beautiful I don’t mean just physically, I’m also saying your soul and mind. A lot of my followers are so sweet and caring. I appreciate you all and I try to comment on as many of pictures I come across because I know even a dumb little comment can make a difference in someone’s day.

Imagine Instagram (or whatever social media platform you frequent most) gets shut down. That’s it, it no longer exists. Picture all the time you spent obsessing over likes/followers is now gone and you have nothing to show for it. It all seems really silly now, right? That you cared that much to impress people you’re most likely not even close to. The worst part is some of us (myself included) compare ourselves to what we see on our feeds. “Wow, that girl has a great butt I need to squat more. Damn, she has such a nice body why can’t I look like this.” I think this stuff too, I’m not exempt from these pressures of wanting to look good. However, there’s a fine line between inspiration and comparison. You should be able to admire someone else’ beauty without questioning your own. I’m all for wanting to improve and grow but when you start to demean yourself that’s not cool.

Would you say the mean things you say about yourself to someone else? I didn’t think so. We’re all unique and gorgeous in our own way. Scrolling through the popular page or seeing fellow bloggers’ pictures can mess with my head sometimes if I’m being honest. I compare myself and think why don’t I look like that or have as many followers? What am I doing wrong? And the answer is nothing. As long as I don’t lose myself and my passions in this stupid social media game I’m winning. It’s only when I sacrifice myself am I really losing. The best thing to do is be confident and consistent. If you stay true to yourself and your hustle everything else will fall into place. I think it’s amazing when women exude confidence, that’s when they’re the most beautiful in my opinion. Being who you really are is so freeing. When you own who you are you become your own ray of f*cking sunshine.

You shine the brightest (as lame as that sounds). What I’m attempting to stress is the importance of doing things for yourself because you enjoy it and not get caught up in sh*t that doesn’t matter. Using social media to connect with others and expand is great but don’t lose or sacrifice yourself. If you can take one thing from this post, let it be to love yourself and show others how to love themselves. There will always be people criticizing or making comments but as long as you see yourself in a positive way who f*cking cares? Every day I remind myself of this and have seen my self esteem rise.